I just learned today that a daughter of a distant relative is into drugs. I’ve always heard stories like this from the media and from friends, and I am guilty of saying things like blame it to the parents, good thing it never happened to me, that’s what they get for giving their kids more than they need, etcetera. But I was left speechless when it happened to someone close to me. The feeling was so different, it felt surreal. The little girl that I used to know is now confined in a drug rehab center somewhere in the South.
According to the drug authorities, illegal drugs remain to be a significant problem in our society. There are no hard fast statistics, but there is an estimation saying that more than 100,000 young people in the Philippines are dealing with drug addiction. It is so sad, but this 100K mark is just a rough estimation, meaning it could be less or worse, more.
My question this morning “Why? How did it happened?”
Their story was the common “busy-working-parents-while-kids-are-left-home-alone” drama. The teener was always left alone with no one to talk to so she relied on friends for comfort, advice, and yes, love. The parents on the other hand gave her more than enough to make up for their short comings. They thought that the set-up was perfect until it was too late.
Their daughter was already spending too much time online, they already lost some things, they noticed that they were already losing bundles of cash in their cash box, and the last one was they found withdrawal sheets with forged signatures in her room! Nobody confronted her because the parents thought that she was just going through a phase. Until she left their home earlier this month and eloped with a guy. She came home a few days late to the delight of her parents but they we’re shocked to know that she just went home to get more CASH.
This led the parents to call the help of the police because they can no longer control the girl. She was already uncontrollable and was shivering from anger and her need for MORE drugs.
I am affected because, first and foremost, I am close to the parents. I understand that they are working so hard to give their kids the best. That they can not give up their work because they want their kids to have the best life. They never thought that this would happen and all they did was work their *sses off morning and night for their kids.
I asked hubby “Ba’t naman ako?”
My husband reminded me that people are different from each other, so they react to issues differently as well. I was a neglected teener too, but I never thought of drugs as a solution to my problems. But then again, it was just me. The situation could be worse to this little girl. Maybe it was already too much for her to take.
This left me thinking that I should change my priorities, that I should put my family first. Of course it is easier said than done. but all I can promise my husband and daughter is the time I can spend with them. That I will always be there whether they need me or not.
Let’s show our kids that they are important to us, that whatever they say matter. Let us be sensitive to their needs and take some time to listen and chat with them each day. Eating together is also essential and grab that chance to update them (and vice versa) on what happened to you that day. I personally believe that it is important that we spend moments with our kids EACH DAY, not just every weekend.
You see, Communication is the key. Top that with Love and you’ll get Harmony.