“Saan ka nag-i-school?”
“We don’t go to school, I homeschool them.”
“Oh…buti ka pa, ako di ko kaya yan. Ang hirap kaya!”
This conversation is normal with non-homeschoolers. I simply don’t understand why self-criticism comes first before they could even do the real thing. Before it was disbelief, but over the years the response have changed to:
- Acceptance — because the number of homeschoolers in the Philippines nowadays is growing in leaps and bounds!
- Self doubt — people doubting themselves if they can do what we do
Which lead me to thinking why a lot of us doubt our own abilities to teach our children. But honestly, I was like that back in 2008 when we were starting so I guess it’s normal. But if we do not do anything to change this thought, we will be doubting ourselves for the rest of our lives, correct?
“Dear parents, you are more than enough. Never allow anyone to make you feel otherwise.”
Given our experiences back in our days in grade school, high school, and college, I perfectly understand why we all feel this way.
But hey, we can change that for the future generations. Yes, WE CAN.
If you have plans in homeschooling your kids, read on. Otherwise, think of plans on how you can improve the current situation in your child’s school. Reach out. Be proactive and let’s make this all work for the future generations.
I can teach my child. Yes? YES.
The first step is to remove the “stress” thought on teaching our children.
“But I teach them at night and they don’t even want to listen and we always end up fighting!”
Hey mama, you feel resistance because your kid is already tired from his stay in school! Kids are hungry for learning BUT they’re human and they get tired too!
Preparation and Eating: 1.5 hours
Waiting and Travel: 2 hours
Academics and Extra Curricular Activities: 8 hours
Total: 11.5 hours
11.5 hours per day is spent for school and you still have to sit down for unfinished homeworks? That’s cruelty!
So mama, it’s not that they don’t want to listen to you or you’re not good enough in tutoring him.
He is just tired and so are you.
I think, a lot of us see learning as stressful. Homeworks, quizzes, long tests, unit tests, quarterly exams, etc. How can that be fun?
But learning IS fun. As a homeschooling parent, you have the power to make it FUN and beneficial for both of you.
When we remove all the grades, scores, medals and all and change our view of what learning REALLY is, then we will soon realize that YES, we are capable of teaching our children.
How to Address Impatience as You Homeschool
Bad days are normal, it happens. But try not take it out on your kids. Impatience happens when your expectations or standards are not met. When this happens, breathe in and out and think how you can change your expectations. Nurture the interests of your kids rather than having them meet your expectations.
But Other Families Are Doing Better Than Us!
In all aspects, do not compare yourself to others. Focus on your own journey and the path of your kids. Learn to trust by acknowledging your kids’ individual development, supporting their learning styles and interests, and by controlling ourselves and not them.
Practice how to listen by your ears and heart because when we do, we will hear the things that they would want to learn. As parents, we do not need to know everything about all things, we should learn that perfecting a lesson plan is an option, and motivating them every minute is absurd.
Listen and trust yourself that you can educate your kids.