“Thank you.” I never expected these words from a trisikad driver.
You really can’t blame me if I no longer expect common courtesy from other people. I came from a place where, sadly, common courtesy and politeness are no longer common. Rudeness, on the other hand, has become a day to day experience that I have come to agree terms with. My attitude towards someone depends on how he or she treat me. Either that, or ikaw ang mababastos.
Things has changed though when we transferred to Cebu. People here still practice “thank you and welcome”, neighbors greet you “good morning, afternoon or evening”, and total strangers help you without expecting something in return. For them, it is their social obligation to help someone in need and not just because they will be paid for it. During my daily commute I got lost so many times, and time and time again, the Cebuanos I’ve met have not only shown me WHERE to go but also HELPED me find a way to get there. There’s an enormous difference between being pointed to with “Doon!” and “Sakay ka ug paduong Parkmall, nay O1K diha, sakay ka nya ingna nga manaog ka SM (Ride a multicab going to Parkmall, there’s another multicab there with O1K number, ride that one and tell them that you’ll get off SM).” People in Cebu still care. These incidents opened my heart and eyes, and restored my hope in humanity again.
This is why I felt so privileged to have been invited to the round table discussion of Krem-top’s Change for the Better Campaign. It was like, wow! So timely! I realized how blessed I am to be in a place where the core values of Filipinos are not just written and taught but also practiced every day.
These values were discussed by Dr. Mina Ramirez, phenomenological sociologist and president of Asian Social Institute.
- Mapagpasalamat – Filipinos are very thankful despite and in spite of. We always have something to be thankful for. We always have this smile on our faces even in depressing situations. It is innate to us to attribute life’s blessings no matter how big or small to a higher being and I see nothing wrong with that. It is in fact, a trait that I am proud of. No matter how tough life is, I sulk, yes, but at the end of the day, I look forward to a brighter tomorrow.
- Matatag – We are resilient. Filipinos can easily adapt to changes and has this distinct strength and motivation to overcome difficulties, drawn from the love we have for our family. In fact, when asked how they are, Filipinos would always reply with “Okay lang”, it’s like saying “I’m okay/alright/good”.
- Mapagmalasakit – Love begets love, as care begets care. By nature, Filipinos are compassionate. Our love for our family are inevitably extended to friends, neighbours and other people within our outside our respective communities. We serve because we feel that we can fulfil our duty to the higher being by being of service to our fellowmen.
- Magalang – Filipino show respect in so many ways. The use of po and opo when we talk to someone older than us (or someone of authority) is one, and pagmamano. It is natural for us to respect, not just the feelings of others, but also other people’s emotions, properties and ideas. We are polite by culture.
- Masigasig – When Filipinos dream of something, they strive and fight so hard to achieve it. It is very common for us to dream not for ourselves but for the whole family and loved ones. Hardships mean nothing to us if the prize is “kagihnawaan” for our families.
We have little to live by, but we have so much to live for. – Dr. Mina Ramirez
There is still a chance to keep the core Filipino values; we just have to start within ourselves, practice it every day and pass it on to our children. Thank you, Krem-top for leading the #changeforthebetter campaign.
Entrepremom is one proud #bidachanger – are you?