It’s 7:40PM, the two girls are right in front me doing their respective hobbies. My eldest is drawing another pony while the youngest is busy with her new tubs of Play Doh. I am with them almost everyday since I work from home, I see them grow right before my very eyes, yet, I have this crazy thought that I am not spending that much quality time with them.
Time passes swiftly, and before I know it, they’re ready to explore the world on their own. By the way, that’s our dream for them (a college diploma is only secondary). Right now, our goal is to build a stronger bond with them, and with their dad being away for work, the responsibility is on my shoulders.
Here’s how I TRY to spend quality time with them:
In the cinema, at home, it really doesn’t matter where. As long as I spend time with the girls by watching movies we both love. We recently watched Moana and finished several series on Netflix. I love moments like these because it gives us the chance to relax and learn at the same time. With Moana, they learned a thing or two about Polynesia and even until now, they’ve been asking a whole lot of things about the place and they people in it. Netflix gives us a lot of good series, movies, and documentaries to aid our homeschooling.
The other day, we learned about the British culture by watching documentaries about the Royal family, British issues, and a whole lot more. And because I am watching with them, they get to watch shows not appropriate for their age (just no sex, please!), it’s easier for me to explain certain things.
Spend if you must
Last December, I spent good money on our tickets to Annie. That was our gift for them because they didn’t ask for anything else. They have showed love for the movie and their friend Cheska Rojas was in the cast so why not? It turned out to be one of the best gifts they received! They won’t forget it for sure.
We’re one of those parents who rarely give expensive gifts and we’re blessed to have kids who never asks for anything. But sometimes, spending a bit for them won’t hurt.
Make Normal Tasks Special
Grocery shopping? Bring them with you. Bring them with you as long as they still want to. Time will eventually come when they no longer want to go or hang out with you, so do it while you still can. My eldest and I are so close, yet I noticed that she no longer wants to go out except during weekends when we REQUIRE them to go out with us because that’s the only time that their dad is home and my uncle as well — she’s okay with it, by the way. During weekdays, she’d rather draw at home or watch her fave shows.
I sometimes bring them when I deliver cakes — it doubles as a date for us girls 🙂
I tried travelling without them and boy it sucks. While it is important to spend some quality time alone, I’d say that travelling with them is still best. We barely had time and funds to travel far in 2016 so we made sure to bring them along with us to nearby places during weekends.
Yes, even malling counts.
Be There When They Need You
A visit to the dentist? Kumon time? They are sick? I made sure that I am always there. I may not be able to heal that toothache, to answer their worksheets, or to treat their illness, but I am there as their mom to comfort and assure them that everything’s going to be fine.
The point here is to make lasting memories with them. I may not be the mom who spends tons of money on their kids, but the quality time I spend with them will fill their love banks, contribute to their joy, and strengthen our relationships.
Time will still swiftly pass by for sure, but I have power in my hands to spend beautiful moments with them that they will carry in their hearts when they leave home.