Such a big word for someone, who, despite her efforts, fails big time in this department. I’ve been a WAHM for 7 years now and I still feel guilty for not spending enough time with my kids.
The work/life balance dilemma is something most work at home moms like me face every single day. We breathe work 24/7 and household management just the same. How we juggle our day to day activities is a talent denied to many. It is not easy.
I would personally want to end this post with answers to the question: How do Work-at-Home-Moms feel fabulous at the end of a usual work day?
It is a fact that, naturally, a woman would want to look good and feel fabulous. But how do others do it when we are covered with cereals, drowning with paper works and overwhelmed with bills every single day? I speak from personal experience: there are days that I would miss taking a shower in the morning because there are just so much to do and the society is expecting moms to think of themselves last, right?
Now the search for work/life balance begins. It is elusive and you will not find it until you stop searching and start reflecting inward. Surprisingly, the keys in achieving this are quite simple.
Make time for yourself
It is not selfish to make time for ourselves. It is just right to stop, put everything down and do something that you really, really like from time to time. I say, “Hey hardworking woman, dress up and have coffee or dinner with friends. You deserve it!”
Sometimes, we need to leave everything behind, in order for us to function better and become whole once again. Because honestly, how can a mom work if she is stressed out, totally drained and feeling rubbish? Remember, we are not just managers to our clients, but we also function as the CEOs of our respective households! Technically, we are serving two masters at the same time so we owe it to ourselves to feel and look good.
“Come on, put that paper work down and have a mani-pedi!”
Ditch online competition
Online competition is real and it will eat you up if you hastily jump into chaotic mama communities. Do not get me wrong here. Most of us go online for friendly advises but often find ourselves competing with other moms in the long run. Harsh, but it is the reality. We are competitive by nature, an undeniable fact.
Vaccine vs. no vaccine
Breastfeed vs. formula
Regular school vs. homeschool
The basis for competition is definitely endless. We have to accept that we are unique individuals and we should not let the choices of the community define us. What worked for them may not work for you, what their kids have may not be good on your kids. The earlier we accept this, the better.
Accept only a job or two
When I was new to online jobs, I accepted every possible job that came my way. Sleep? What sleep? Yes, I normally had 2 hours of sleep every day because I was working on different tasks for several clients. If I remember it right, I had a full-time job and 3 other part time ones. For years, I was like that, jumping from one contract to another and it was financially liberating!
So why did I stop? Because I bit more than I could chew. Work was good, but it ate up my entire day and night that I forgot about my growing toddler! I felt that I was being unfair to her. I left the corporate jungle because I needed to be with her yet, where was I? Working as a slave to an online corporate jungle still!
After three years, burnout ate me so I stopped and focused on other things, especially my daughter. Finances were harder, but it gave me a kind of satisfaction no amount of money can compensate.
At the end of the day, assess yourself: What really are your goals?
As a working mom, I have mastered the art of multi-tasking but I always, always make it a point to reflect and see if I am achieving something at the expense of my kids. It is not acceptable. My family is my priority, and as the CEO of this house, I am paying the premium of an expensive investment: Quality Time.
Now, going back to our question: How do Work-at-Home-Moms feel fabulous at the end of a usual work day?
The thought about making myself good, not in competition with anyone and the realization that I have served both my family and clients well, bring such a feeling of personal contentment.